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My Father Was an Anonymous Sperm Donor
By Katrina Clark
Sunday, December 17, 2006
I really wasn't expecting anything the day, earlier this year, when I sent an
e-mail to a man whose name I had found on the Internet. I was looking for
my father, and in some ways this man fit the bill. But I never thought I'd hit
pay dirt on my first try. Then I got a reply -- with a picture attached. MORE

Donor Conceived People

THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS

“Someone told me ‘I am the descendant of my ancestors and I am the ancestor of my descendants’, and I thought, ‘Yeah, but I have 50 percent ghosts as ancestors—that’s no small thing!’ I am glad to know my DI friends feel the same way. There is so much for us to talk about, compare and aim to change with regards to the silence surrounding our rights and our identities. The denial is bound to hurt us and make us feel angry, but we have strength in numbers.” 
                                                                                                'J' aged 35 

A lot of the pain of being a DI adult is similar to the experience of Adoptees. There has been a growing understanding of the consequences of adoption, but not a clue about DI. This group provides a start to help DI people understand themselves and begin to educate the outside world.”          
                                                         
                                                                          'L' aged 43

“Making contact with other DI adults for the first time was incredible—I realised I wasn’t the only person in the world with such an unconventional set of identity issues. For the first time I could compare my feelings to other peoples and find that they were normal—I was no longer such an unusual case!”                                  
                                                                               'R' 31

 “When I first discovered the truth about my DI conception I didn’t know of a single person in my situation. I felt like freak of the week. Some of my best support comes from the other side of the world… Thank heavens for e-mail. I didn’t know it was normal to feel angry at being cheated out of knowing my biological family.”         
                                                              
                                                                               'C' UK

“Someone told me ‘I am the descendant of my ancestors and I am the ancestor of my descendants’, and I thought, ‘Yeah, but I have 50 percent ghosts as ancestors—that’s no small thing!’ I am glad to know my DI friends feel the same way. There is so much for us to talk about, compare and aim to change with regards to the silence surrounding our rights and our identities. The denial is bound to hurt us and make us feel angry, but we have strength in numbers.” 
                                                                                                'J' 35

“…I feel access to our genetic information, medical history and indeed family is so obviously necessary and important that I can barely cope with talking to anyone who thinks differently. DI offspring are the ony current group of people who are denied this right (legally) due to the convenience of everyone other than themselves.
                                                                                                ‘L’ aged 18

“Upon meeting a group of offspring I felt a connection with others like me. I felt an instant rapport.”                  
                                                                                        Liam 29

Links to sites centred around donor conceived people & their views & experiences.

(Please note the DCSG does not recommend any particluar sites)

http://australiandonorconceptionforum.org
A forum run by donor conceived people; allows open discussion on all donor conception topics


http://donorconceived.blogspot.com/
Donor Conceived Perspectives: Voices from the Offspring
Have you ever wondered whatever happens to the children created by sperm donors? We are adult donor conceived people from all over the world, and these are our stories. We are females and males aged 17 to 65, and come from three continents, with varying views towards our conception, but we all share one thing in common...our biological father was a sperm donor.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AustralianDonorConceptionRegistry/
This group has been established to link any parties involved in donor conception practices in Australia. Donor conceived people, donors families involved in donor conception practices in Australia, past present, are invited to join.
http://donatedgeneration.blogspot.com/
Thoughts of donor conception practices from a donor offspring whose views changed dramatically once he had children of his own. This event has lead me on a quest to find my true identity, heritage, family health history and genetic relations (both donor and siblings), for myself and for my children.
http://tangledwebsorg.wordpress.com/
TangledWebs is an action group, challenging Donor Conception (DC) practices in Australia & internationally. Members have personal &/or professional experience that relates to DC or adoption.
http://www.searchingformyspermdonorfather.org/
SearchingForMySpermDonorFather.org is a website about people trying to connect with their sperm donor fathers and other relatives.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/PCVAI/
This is a group for people who were conceived by donor insemination. We get together here and share our ideas, frustrations, and hopes. We restrict our group to donor-conceived people

http://cryokidconfessions.blogspot.com/
What happens when artificially created bundles of joy begin to speak for themselves? Revolt! I'm a product of an anonymous sperm donor and now that I'm an adult I'm searching for answers and speaking out. And this is my story...

http://anonymousus.org/index.php
The Anonymous Us Project is a safety zone for real and honest opinions about reproductive technologies and family fragmentation. We aim to share the experiences of voluntary and involuntary participants in these technologies, while preserving the dignity and privacy for story-tellers and their loved ones.
http://www.idoalliance.org/

The International Donor Offspring Alliance; IDOA was formed in 2007. It exists to act as an advocate for those conceived through the use of donor gametes. It has members in the UK, US, Canada, France, Japan, New Zealand & Australia.

http://donorsiblingregistry.com
The Donor Sibling Registry (DSR) was created in September 2000 by Wendy Kramer and her son Ryan. Certain that other donor offspring would have the same curiosity as Ryan about his genetic origins - yet also knowing that sadly, no public outlet existed for mutual consent contact between people born from anonymous sperm donation, this site was started as the logical next step to making those connections.

http://www.canadiandonoroffspring.ca/

Where do I come from? Who's my biological father or mother? For thousands of Canadians conceived from donated sperm or egg, donor information is secret as physicians and fertility clinics treat donor identity as confidential. Though many egg donors do agree to be known, the vast majority of sperm donors do not; thus denying to a group of people conceived through means of assisted human reproduction their full medical and genetic history and an important part of their personal identity too.
http://www.spenderkinder.de/
Spenderkinder (German site in German)  is an association of sperm donor conceived adults. It is estimated that there are up to 100,000 such "children" in Germany, but only between 5 and 10% know of their conception.
http://www.pmanonyme.asso.fr/charte.php
The Charter of the association LDCS: Because each human being has a right to know its origins irrespective of its conception, the association ‘Procreation Anonymous’ aims to raise the awareness of health professionals, legislators and the public at large about the psychological consequences to unborn children, of the use of anonymous gamete & embryo donors. French site in French.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DonorMisconception-Open/
The new DonorMisconception group, discussing the issues related to donor conception. We have an emphasis on supporting and extending the rights of donor conceived people.